A wedding to remember
Some love stories are written not just in the hearts of two people but in places where memories linger for a lifetime. Such is the story of Helene (Leni) Hirsch and Michael (Mike) Hoffman, whose journey began with a wedding that would become a testament to enduring love and faith.
On a sweltering summer day in 1969, they exchanged vows at the Sorrowful Mother Shrine’s Lourdes Grotto, marking the start of a lifelong tradition. For 55 years, they have returned to the same sacred spot each summer, celebrating their union despite life’s inevitable challenges. Their story of commitment, faith, and resilience not only reflects the beauty of marriage but also the timeless spiritual serenity of the shrine.
With each passing year, the trip to the shrine has been more of a challenge. Both Leni and Mike are faced with health issues. However, no matter what the obstacle, they have made the journey. Last summer, Mike made his way to the grotto in a wheelchair. Looking at the grotto, he proudly stood up to have his picture taken with his bride as he did 55 years ago.
Leni and Mike wanted to get married outdoors, and Mike’s parents suggested the shrine. Mike’s great-grandparents were married at the shrine in 1878. However, several things needed to be addressed before the wedding. Mike was Catholic, but at that time, Leni was not. Her parents were not entirely on board with a Catholic wedding. They met with Father Joseph Lapinski, the shrine director, who assured them that God would be present in the marriage and there was no need for concern. Father Lapinski did require that the couple agree and commit to raising their children in the Catholic faith.
Leni recalls arriving late on the wedding day. A recent tornado and flood had wiped out some of the roads, and there were numerous detours. The Mass occurred at a regularly scheduled service, so many people were present who they did not know, including, Leni says, a busload of visitors from Chicago.
We thank Mike and Leni for sharing their story and hope to see them again in August 2025.
Beginning in 1982, because of the shrine’s separation from St. Michael’s Parish, weddings are no longer performed at the shrine. As a result of that separation, the shrine is no longer a formal part of the Toledo Diocese and Baptism, First Confession, First Holy Communion, Weddings, and Burials cannot be performed at the shrine. Just as in 1969, the shrine remains a prayerful, peaceful place to attend Holy Mass, go to Holy Confession, and experience the peace and beauty of the grounds and grottos.
A special thank you to Sharon Ruffing, part-time shrine maintenance and ground staff member, who spoke to Leni and Mike in August and asked if this story could be shared.